Wednesday 18 November 2015

How To Deal With Hate?!

Hey lovelies! I've posted this topic on my old blog TheCliquesBlog but I thought that I should cover this topic again as it seems to be going around again and everyone seems to be getting it over silly little stupid things. This post is going to be How To Deal With Hate!? I know how hard it can be to ignore it but this post will hopefully help you.




Ignore Them - You don't need to bring yourself down to the haters level by retaliating to what the person or they are saying. They most likely won't continue if they don't get a reaction because they hate cause they want the attention. I understand that you need to stand up for yourself but do it in a manner that is respectable.

Take It With A Grain Of Salt - Honestly the person that is hating you, is only one person and that person most likely doesn't know who you are. Not everyone is going to think the same as the person that's said the lies or rumours about you : the people that know you, will believe you.

Don't Say Sorry - This is a massive one because you have nothing to say sorry for. They are the ones hating on you, you haven't done anything wrong and you need to remember that! 

Don't Try and Please Everyone - In reality you're not going to please everyone, so don't try too. No matter what you do, some people are not going to like what you have to say on social media or on your blog. 

Haters Are Going To Hate - No matter what you try to do, there are haters everywhere. Just remember that no matter what : you won't be able to change that fact as it's been around for years and years at this stage. Don't focus on the haters as they don't deserve your time or energy : focus on something that you love.

This is a topic that I feel strongly about and it's a good topic to talk about. Let me know in the comments if you've been the victim of hate.

ThatSoBekaah ox


40 comments:

  1. Hate, jealously, pettiness - yes I've been a victim of them all & it isn't nice. Rise above it is good advice & best of all is to have courage & be kind. <3

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  2. I think everyone has dealt with negativity, especially in secondary school. Kids can be so cruel to each other. Great tips here!

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  3. Jesus was hated by SO many - He also says in His Word that we will be hated for His sake

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  4. this is so true! You cant please everyone and some will hate no matter what we do! Great tips here! Angela

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  5. Haters are going to hate and it is pointless wasting your energy on them x

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  6. I've had so much hate, especially from my girl 'friends', I think some girls just don't like me because I don't like to bitch and if there's a problem I'd rather just talk about it rather than talk behind their backs. Luckily, I've never had hate on my blog which I'm really thankful for but to be honest, I think I'd just have a laugh at it and move on! Hope your trip to LA goes fabulously!!

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  7. Haters are going to hate for sure. Great advice in dealing with them

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  8. These are great tips. You are so right about ignoring them. Haters will always be haters, so why waste your time trying to please them?

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  9. "Shake it off, shake it off!" Yeah, I just went there. Lol. These are all great tips!

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  10. You are so right with all these tips , I am a great believer in just ignoring negative behaviour and I am always telling my teen to ignore people who are mean to her xx

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  11. I always just try to ignore any negative stuff. Like you said, haters gonna hate, it's really best just to let them be negative and get on with your own life. I pity the people who have nothing better to do than hate on other people, it's quite sad really!

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  12. Sadly, the internet is full of 'haters'. I would just ignore and delete if I came across any - they don't deserve the time!

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  13. Taking it with a grain of salt is the best approach to dealing with haters. They are insecure and trying to make you feel bad about yourself.

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  14. Great tips that make sense. I guess some people don't know how to feel so it's harder for them.

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  15. Ooh great post hun, I totally agree in isolation but I don't always deal with it in the same way. I rarely get hate but when I do I either just delete it or I highlight what has been said. I genuinely pity people that are awful to people online and not a lot phases me at all. But theres some poeple who would read the comments and feel hurt by what someones said and thats why I think, right ya bully Ill stand up to you! Usually when I've called them out, they never return. I wish Id started it sooner because when I was a kid I was bullied and kept my gob shut and it was like this internal hurt, now I voice my opinion sometimes and love it! xxx

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  16. I'm getting so tired of hate and bullying from people who think they know how others should live and act. From a Starbucks cup to attacks in Paris, there's been too much hate in the world this week in the month where we should be focusing on giving thanks and showing gratitude.

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  17. I am tired of certain leaders showing hateful policies that is sometimes worse than terriots actions!! We need to show more empathy and compassion in our homes and around the world!

    Ursula

    www.blueridgebeautyblogger.com

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  18. You are so right. Some people are going to choose to be miserable no matter what you do. Don't put energy into negative feelings like hate.

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  19. This is so on point. People will always hate. People will always dislike. There will always be someone standing judging. I love your points. So true. Thanks for sharing. LifeAsLex

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  20. Great post. There will always be someone trying to cause trouble and you can't please everyone. I really wish someone would just put themselves in other's places before they make negative comments. The world would be a much kinder place!

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  21. Haters gonna hate is the best attitude to have! You can't please everyone and negative people will always find something to complain about.

    Molly and Stacie

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  22. sometimes you just gotta do you & forget about what everyone else thinks! I know that's easier said than done but I sometimes have to do that & it's hard.

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  23. I have not been the victim of hate.(yet) Being a blogger I think it is only matter of time. Great tips on how to deal with hate!

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  24. I was a victim of hate before, in a professional standing, and it definitely wasn't fun. I did what I had to do to stop them from contacting me any further but I did learn something from it.

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  25. I ignore the hate. I ignore it and completely delete any negative things I see. Life is way too short, and the negative just isn't wanted. - Jeanine

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  26. love this post. i feel like ignoring is the best option. you cannot please everyone and people actually want to waste time being so hateful, are the ones with the problems. it's not worth the energy.

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  27. You are so right with all these tips! I would just ignore and delete if I came across any!

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  28. My husband tells me these things all the time because I'm a very sensitive person and I wear my emotions on my sleeve. Thanks for the reminders.

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  29. Agree, life is too short to dwell on hate

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  30. i think all of us deal with this at some point in our lives. it's no fun at all.

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  31. I like this post a lot. You're right, some people are just going to hate and the only energy they are wasting are their own. They are best given a wide birth, and use you're own energy for something more constructive

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  32. I agree haters are going to hate & infact that is all they know to do to other people irrespective of how much kind you are. I think the best way to deal them is just Ignore them & move away.

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  33. You definitely can't please everyone and trying to is just a shortcut to an early grave from the stress!

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  34. Those are great tips. We cannot please everyone and I honestly don't bother with people who spread hate

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  35. I don't recollect having experienced any 'hateful' encounters. But, when I do see it happen online, I hate to see an attacked blogger apologize and try to please them.

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  36. you are so right girl haters are going to hate and you just cant please everyone!

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  37. You are absolutely correct, you cannot please everyone. www.yummomummo.com

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  38. There's always going to be someone out there who doesn't like you or what you do. You just have to keep it moving and just keep doing whatever's best for you, haters don't contribute anything but negative energy that no one needs.

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